Intimidation can happen everywhere, in all walks of life and can occur in any age group. Being intimidated by someone is a form of being bullied, it happens in school, the workplace by co-workers or the boss, when shopping and in many other situations.
Some people are not even aware that they are being intimidated, while for it others it can make their life a misery day in and day out with them suffering intimidation on a regular basis. You might even be the one who is intimidating others.
People who are constantly intimidated go through many feelings, but there are many steps that you can take to help eliminate intimidation.
In order to be able to deal successfully with intimidation you first have to understand what intimidation really is, it can come in many disguises.
* Using force to get what you want from others.
* Threatening to or using power and control to get others to do what you want.
* Getting others to believe they are more powerful than you.
* Using size or strength to get others to do what you want or threaten them.
* Holding punishments over their head such as being fired, spanking or divorce.
* Being quick tempered, angry or getting into a rage with someone to get them to do what you want.
* Behaving in a manner that has others frightened to step up to you.
* Using your wealth to get others to do what you want.
* Using racial or sexual slurs towards others.
There are many steps you can take to stop allowing others to intimidate you, the first step you should take is to look at yourself and determine if your irrational, unhealthy way of thinking has allowed yourself to become intimidated by others.
If you think this might have been the case then you should take steps towards countering this intimidation.
* Identify new healthier ways of thinking to help you overcome and respond to the intimidating factors.
* Display your new ways of thinking and acting to those who are intimidating you, this will show them that you are no longer willing to be intimidated by them.
* Develop ways of dealing with people in case they respond negatively to the new you.
* See the consequences of your new assertive behavior.
* Stick to your guns and accept whatever the consequences are of your new behavior.
The next step to take once you have developed a strategy for dealing with those who intimidate you is to develop ways to reinforce your beliefs in the new you.
The easiest way is to use daily affirmations or positive self-talk. Examples of positive self-talk include.
* I am a good person, who is worthy and deserves to be treat with respect.
* I will not put anyone in a superhuman position over me.
* I will take my life back under my control from any who tries to intimidate me in the future.
* I will not allow others to intimidate me.
* There is no one out there who can intimidate me.
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